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Adult Relationships Cannot Withstand Childish Behavior

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Adult relationships are the most healthy, happy, and have the most longevity. Childish, immature relationships having Drama Queens and Drama Kings, are dysfunctional, and will bring more misery than happiness. You may think you have found true love or real love, but if childishness and immaturity plays a big part in your relationship, you are in danger of losing the relationship because it is going to crash and burn.

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Adult Relationships Cannot Withstand Childish Behavior

As an adult, in order to communicate properly you have to both listen attentively and know how to speak without resorting to snark, sarcasm, accusations, nagging, and other traits that make someone tune you out. Giving a child a time-out is one thing, but your relationship is NOT a child. Resorting to childish behavior, such as giving the silent treatment for days on end is destructive, not constructive. It is one thing to leave to calm down and return with a cool head but if it takes you days to calm down, you are again behaving like a baby (especially if the issue was no big deal) and causing damage.

Without a lot of effort on your part, the damage can be irreparable. So why do it? Why do people act out instead of acting like adults? Could it be that when we started dating at a younger age we never learned what didn’t work and our relationship skills have not “aged” and remained juvenile? In many cases, the bad behavior became learned behavior. We then expect, in our adult relationships, for other adults to put up with our childish, destructive temper tantrums. Guess what folks? Most adults will tire of this and walk away. Any adult that would stay and spin their wheels waiting for a childish person to grow up can wait a very long time and/or wind up resorting to childish behavior of their own.

What happens then? Well now the relationship is really in trouble. When you have two people involved in a relationship and are both acting like children, the relationship is doomed to fail, and sure to create major drama and unspeakable behavior. Instead of vowing never again to stoop so low as to resort to immature antics, adults, when triggered, magically turn into a screaming, spewing three-year old.

If you want a life that is peaceful and not chaotic, then behave like a rational adult. If you want a life filled with ups and downs and over-the-top antics, then act the same way you did when you were 8 years old.

Immature people have immature relationships. Mature people have mature relationships.

If you find yourself being the only one in your relationship that won’t cross boundaries when triggered, know that some things are sacred, and have a sense of decency and dignity you need to face reality. You need to understand that you cannot make it work alone. You cannot have control over a relationship when you are involved with someone who is completely out of control. The only predictable result you will have when involved with an immature partner is the ugly, nasty, ending of your relationship.

 

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Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

2 Comments

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  2. Finn

    April 5, 2015 at 1:45 pm

    This post reminds me of a drama king I went out with. Drama over every little thing!

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