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Consistency Counts in Relationships

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We all have way of excusing our behavior, some that make sense and some that are ridiculous. We can understand that you were a wee bit crabby today because your boss yelled at you, but to say you hit your spouse because they didn’t hand you a cold beer quick enough, sorry, you are out of line.

Consistency Counts

Consistency Counts in Relationships

We are often shocked at the way people will excuse other people’s’ behavior rather than accept the possibility that this person is an idiot and the wrong person for them. Yes, some people can be trapped in a loveless marriage, treated like garbage and made to feel insignificant every day of their lives and then meet someone who is really nice to them and fall in love. Understandable. Makes sense. But if your spouse does most things right, shows you love and kindness and you make them believe you are happy but have a relationship outside of the marriage, chances are you are a cheating rectal swab. Big difference. Yes, we want to believe those we love have a legitimate excuse for doing terrible things to us, but in some cases they have no good excuse. So it is time to learn the difference, and face what you may not want to face: That you are in love with a hopeless idiot who is all wrong for you.

No one is perfect, and we all act in ways that are not fair or true testaments to the people we really are on the inside. One of the big clues is in consistency. If the one you love is consistently a nice, caring wonderful person, but one day acts like an idiot, it’s not fair to say they are the spawn of the devil. They are just HUMAN. But if they are CONSISTENTLY a selfish bastard and one day here and there they actually act like a decent human being, hold off from patting them on the back or giving them a prize. They are still a selfish bastard that has a good day once in a while.

You need to look at the relationships in your life. The ones you have with your boss, your co-workers, friends, family and lovers and look at their consistent behavior. Are they more human and make mistakes only once in a while? If they act like an idiot and treat you badly 90% of the time you have to accept this is just how they ARE. Look at how they are with everyone in their life. If they can treat other people well, then there can be hope that they can treat YOU well, but if they treat everyone like shit, time to pack it up and run away. Once you have determined what the person is, and how they treat everyone, you can then set in motion to being one of the people they treat well, as opposed to the luck one that gets treated like crap. If you can’t, it is time for you to bail.

Nice people are nice MOST of the time. Nice people treat you nice MOST of the time.

 

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Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

1 Comment

  1. Tammy

    March 20, 2015 at 9:29 pm

    this makes so much sense

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