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Dealing With Rejection in a Relationship

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When we start out on our journey to find true love we are not equipped with the thick skin we may need to face rejection along the way. Most of us are not that lucky to find the love of our lives and the perfect relationship that is going to last a lifetime on the first try. We should be prepared for rejection, but we are not.

Even if someone is wrong for us, if they are the person that verbalizes it first, we feel rejected somehow! We did not want them, but we did not want them to not want us. When we feel strong emotions from someone who does not feel the same way, we are distraught and devastated. We wonder why we were not good enough, attractive enough, sexually compatible enough or why they did not feel the same chemistry and connection that we did. We turn it on ourselves and blame ourselves. We take it personally, when really it isn’t personal.

Relationship rejection

Dealing with Rejection in Relationships

It was their opinion/feelings, not yours. They cannot control chemistry, emotions, or their opinions. We don’t know why we like chocolate rather than vanilla, we just do. Vanilla should not be upset with us and take it personally. It is hard when someone rejects us, but we shouldn’t make it all about us. Not everyone can think we are attractive. Look at Angelina Jolie. She is widely known as one of, if not the, most beautiful women in the world. But, there are people who think she is not attractive at all. It is the same with the rest of us.

Some people are going to find us sexy, interesting, fun to be around, and intelligent. Others will have a different opinion. When dealing with rejection, the first thing to do, instead of wondering why they don’t want you, is to accept they don’t want you and leave it at that. Don’t believe that because one person rejected you, that everyone will. That is simply not true.
If you have been rejected, there are a few steps you can use to help ease the pain:

1. Accept the rejection, don’t fight it. If someone has rejected you, don’t think of ways to change their mind or opinion. Don’t try to change your ways to suit them better either. If you are in the right relationship you have the freedom to be yourself. When you are in the wrong one, you have to pretend to be someone else and hide the real you.
2. No more pity parties. He didn’t want you? His loss. Feeling like you cannot live without him? You can, and you will. Stop dwelling on what could have been, and focus on what you can have in your future. Going over it a billion times gets you nowhere.
3. You may want to be alone at first, but reach out to people and try and keep busy. Being around people that make you feel special, that you know love you and think you are awesome can really help negate your feelings of rejection.
4. Realize you are not alone. Most people have faced rejection at one time or another, not just you. It can happen to anybody, even supermodels, actors, and actresses. Put yourself in the same boat as everyone else instead of feeling as if you are all alone in this experience.
5. Talk to someone who has been through it already. See if they have any tips or advice to help get you through it.


Dealing with rejection is key to moving on. Don’t stay stuck with a broken ego, but take the rejection as a learning experience and use that knowledge to empower yourself to move forward and get closure. The right relationship for you is out there. Leave the rejection from the wrong relationship behind you and go out and find the right one.


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Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

1 Comment

  1. Penny

    March 24, 2015 at 4:49 pm

    I really liked your perspective on this. Made me really think.

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