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Does He Have Relationship Potential?

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So many clients ask if the person they are dating has relationship potential. This is a tricky question. Everyone has potential, and so does every relationship. That doesn’t mean everyone has the potential to make you happy, or that every relationship can potentially be the right one for you.

Think about it. Every date has the opportunity to be good, fair or a nightmare. Every relationship has the potential to be short-term, long-term and/or dysfunctional. The question doesn’t have an easy, simple answer. A relationship also changes over time, so what once had potential to be something great can easily over time turn into something that now has none. There is no simple answer to that question, and no answer that can stand throughout the course of the relationship. That is why it is so important to do the best you can to make sure your relationship continues to evolve in a healthy way. It is also just as important to make sure you recognize when a relationship does not meet your own individual standards or requirements. Many times your relationship fantasies will not become reality, even if you believe there is a strong potential between the two you.

We have spoken to many women who are frustrated that the one they love has not given them the relationship they want. They are angry that the relationship, and their loved one, has not reached their potential. But how do they know it every could be reached in the first place? Just because you wish it, dream it, want it, or think you need it, doesn’t mean you will get it. The potential you think a relationship, or a person, could have may simply not be achievable.

Does He Have Relationship Potential

Does He Have Relationship Potential?

So many people do not realize how big a role they play in this, and because they won’t do what needs to be done, neither will the one they love. We can tell them what they need to do but they come up with excuse after excuse, fear after fear, and won’t do it. For instance, let’s say a woman meets a guy she thinks she could potentially get into a relationship with. She pursues him, has sex with him very early on, they don’t go on any dates, and have no real boundaries and guidelines. Now in many cases, because this was started on the wrong foot, the only potential here is for a booty call every now and then. It was not that there was never any potential for anything serious, but now the woman is not taken seriously by the man. So no potential to be a serious relationship exists now. Sure, some people might be able to turn that around but in many cases it will be too late.

How you begin dating, the patterns of behavior you put out and accept all create the potential, or lack thereof, for the relationship. So the potential of a man or a relationship is not always predetermined, because potential can be undermined by what we bring to the table.You can undermine a relationships potential in many ways.

Relationships with No Potential

  1. Coming on too strong, especially too soon.
  2.  Entering into an affair before the person is single.
  3.  Tolerating bad behavior too many times that it becomes habitual.
  4.  Not having the courage to speak up for yourself and make your feelings known.
  5. Allowing a relationship to develop too quickly.
  6. Getting involved with someone before they have gotten closure on a past relationship.
  7. Starting a sex with no strings relationship but really wanting more.
  8. Being too nice, understanding, and supportive to the point you are being taken for granted and are a low priority.
  9. Being afraid to give someone consequences to their bad actions (with more than words or empty threats)
  10. Starting a relationship with someone before you have put closure on your past relationship.

Look at your relationship and dating habits and try to find what you may have done to diminish the potential to any future relationships and make those changes that you need to. Make realistic choices when you pick partners so the potential you think, or hope is there, really is.

 

Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

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