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Have You Lost Your Dignity in Your Relationship?

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Have you lost your dignity in your relationship? Many people sacrifice their dignity and self-esteem in an effort to keep a relationship going. They do not set out to throw their dignity out the window. All they want is for a peaceful, loving relationship that will last. Well, you can’t have a peaceful, happy, loving, long-lasting relationship at the expense of your own dignity. So what are some of the ways people have lost their dignity in a relationship?

 

Have You Lost Your Dignity in Your Relationship?

Have You Lost Your Dignity in Your Relationship?

One of the more common ways to  lose your dignity is by constantly chasing the other person. If the one you love keeps putting space and distance between you, stand still, don’t chase after them. If they have done something wrong, yet they get mad at you and break up with you or pull away, stand your ground. Chasing after someone who always makes you the bad guy is an easy way to destroy your dignity. Trying over and over again to get someone to see things your way is self-defeating. How can you have dignity if you grovel at their feet when they should be groveling at yours because they screwed up? You can’t. It may seem like you are taking the higher road for the benefit of the relationship. In truth, it is for the detriment of the relationship and of your personal self-esteem and dignity.

 

If you keep allowing your partner to hurt you, especially the same ways, over and over, each time you allow it, you have flushed your dignity down the drain. Sure, relationships require forgiveness. We are all human and make mistakes. But if your loved one keeps choosing to make the same mistakes over and over again, knowing how much it hurts you, you are being too forgiving. If you throw away your dignity, how can you expect the one you love to treat you in a dignified way? You can’t. If you can’t respect yourself, why should anyone else show you respect? It starts, and it will end, with you.

 

We should all expect to make sacrifices for a relationship. But don’t sacrifice needlessly. Why should you be the only one making the sacrifices anyway? Why should you cancel your Sunday Yoga class to watch football with the one you love when you hate football? Why can’t you both do your own thing? Why let them manipulate you into thinking you constantly need to show your love while all they show you is selfishness?

 

Communication is another way one can lose their dignity in a relationship. If the one you love doesn’t call or text you for days or weeks and leaves you hanging, you need to put an end to that. You cannot remain dignified by allowing someone to do that to you. You also cannot resort to screaming, walking out on a conversation, or fighting dirty like cursing or name calling. You should both be able to remain above such undignified behaviors in a relationship. If the person you are in love with brings out that side in you, you need to get yourself in check. Bring them up to your level instead of going down to theirs.

 

Another way to keep from losing your dignity in a relationship is by speaking up. Don’t assume, don’t guess, and don’t wait around for them to bring it up. If you feel you should be monogamous before sleeping together, than say so, and act appropriately. If you think you have been dating long enough and should now be exclusive, then say so. Actually, by the third date you should be asking them how long they think someone should date before a relationship should be considered? (If that is something you want to know). If you want to know how many people they are dating other than you, ASK. You have a right to know. Sure, they can lie, but there is no harm in asking. If you feel you have waited long enough for a commitment, bring it up. Don’t let life pass you by waiting for someone else to give you what you deserve. Take control of your life, and the people in it.

Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

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