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Serious Date vs. Serial Date

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When it comes to dating, many men “claim” to be looking for a relationship, when they are actually looking to serial date. For example: On internet dating websites, so many men say they are looking for a serious relationship, but when you date them, you find out what big fat liars they are.

They start dating you, and you get along great, speak on the phone and text quite a bit, and then the bombshell. Out of the blue they tell you they are not ready for a relationship! So why were they dating you? Why did they state on their profile that they were looking for a relationship but now say they are not ready for one? Why lie about their intentions?

Serious Date vs. Serial Date

Serious Date vs. Serial Date

So you go out with them, that’s why. So they can have sex with you, that’s why.

Serial daters date several women at the same time. That would be fine if they were looking for the right girl to settle down with, but serial daters want to be free to date as many women as they please and have zero intention on settling down. Once the newness wears off and it starts getting more serious or intense, or he has been intimate with you, out comes the “I am not ready for a relationship”. And it ends.

Serial daters are not looking to get close to you, find out all about you, and see if you are compatible for a long-term relationship. Serial daters want to have fun with women they find attractive or a challenge. They like the ego boost and never have to worry about commitment or emotional entanglements.

Serial daters know if they tell women “Look, I am not looking for anything but a good time, and as soon as I am ready to bail I will, so how about going out with me?” that most women would tell them to go chase themselves. So, instead, THEY LIE. Women often ask us “What went wrong”? “What happened?” “Did he get scared”?

The answer most often is: This is exactly what he knew would happen, and what he wanted to happen. Yes, the chemistry you felt was real, and he also probably found you attractive and fun. It did not matter. He didn’t want a relationship so he was playing a game right from the get go.

Serial daters often make women think they did something wrong. They didn’t. If you were dating a guy and things seemed to be going great then suddenly out of the blue he breaks things off and blames you with some lame excuse, he may be a serial dater. He was going to find something to use against you to end it, as serial daters often do.

How to spot the difference between a serial dater and a serious dater? Stay tuned….


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Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

1 Comment

  1. Beth

    April 2, 2015 at 2:05 pm

    I have met so many serial dater…not serious ones. It sucks

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