When He Says He Doesn’t Know What He Wants
Many women have found themselves involved or in love with a man who says, out of the blue, that he doesn’t know what he wants right now concerning a relationship. After a woman recovers from being completely blindsided, she then begins to wonder where that came from, and why. Why doesn’t he know what he wants all of a sudden? Why does he no longer know what he wants when he seemed to clearly know exactly what he wanted up to this point? When will he know what he wants? Since the statement came out of nowhere, and she really does not know where they stand and what the future holds, she is just as confused as he apparently is.
Let’s take out some of the confusion. When he says he doesn’t know what he wants, he is actually telling you he knows what he doesn’t want. What he doesn’t want is the relationship you want. Men often pull this stunt and use this line when it is time for a relationship to go to the next level, or for one to start.
When you are dating they say they know what they want, but when it is time to deliver, the vacillating begins. If you really want a relationship, when the opportunity presents itself, you will give it a chance. If you don’t, you won’t.
Where does this sudden change of heart come from? More often than not, they never really wanted the same things you did, they lied.
Quite often men will say they don’t know what they want right now as a way to break up. Rather than cut if off cleanly, they leave you hanging waiting for them to decide. He may also say he is not sure of what he wants right now to keep you on the line while he pursues another woman, or women. If it doesn’t work out with the other woman, he still has you on the back burner. When his ex makes contact, men will often use this line as a way to get space from you while they sort out their feelings for their ex or try to reconcile with their ex.
Some men use that line to keep the sex without having to have a real relationship with you. They put the relationship status on hold, and have now created a booty call or friends with benefits situation. It is a good manipulative tactic on his part, as he knows the woman may still hold out some hope of a real relationship someday.
It is never a good sign when a man says he doesn’t know what he wants, and even if he discovers what he wants is you, can you or should you really trust him? Can you really be sure if you want to give him the chance to change his mind again?
What YOU shouldn’t want is a man who is not ready to give your relationship a chance. What YOU shouldn’t want is a man who can change his mind so easily, and for no good reason. When he says he doesn’t know what he wants, tell him you no longer want someone like him. What you want is a man who KNOWS what he wants, knows how to get it, treat it, and keep it.
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