A dysfunctional relationship will cause change if both parties are willing to make the necessary changes and grow from them. Change is hard. Dysfunctional relationships are difficult and need both parties to be committed to making things better. If no effort is applied to dysfunctional relationships they will get worse, and worse, and worse.
A healthy relationship has the groundwork already set for positive change. Healthy relationships have a platform already established with support and inspiration to be better and do better as individuals and as a couple. It is harder to grow as an individual when you are part of an unhealthy relationship.
Parents or other family relationships that drag you down or make you feel insecure. It could be friends that manipulate and use you. It could be a wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend that get in the way of you pursuing your personal goals. Whatever the relationship, if it is indeed a positive one, you should never feel guilty about evolving as a person. If someone in your life is making you feel that way, or question yourself, chances are their are bigger problems in your relationship than you think.
Have you ever noticed in movies and television shows how often a female character is made to feel guilty about her job when she has children or a relationship? That happens to male characters too, but it happens way too often to female characters. Take the movie “The Devil Wears Prada” for instance. Miranda was seen as the villain, but I immediately felt the boyfriend, Nate, was an asshole. He ragged on her constantly about not being there for him and putting her job first. He was a chef. At some point one would think he would want to open his own restaurant. Are we to believe he would only be putting in 8 hours a day, 5 days a week and be able to give her (Andy) tons of quality time while he was launching his new restaurant?
It seems as though people are falling for the belief that only bad situations are responsible for growth and change for the better. They are not. You can create growth and change at any time, and in any situation. The thing is, if you are in a healthy relationship, you are almost always guaranteed your partner will be along for the ride. In an unhealthy relationship, you can almost always guarantee your partner will try to drag you down rather than make things easy on you.
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