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Are You Too Passive in Your Relationship?

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Are you too passive in your relationship? Many people wind up being too passive in their relationships for several reasons. One reason is because they are afraid to speak up for them selves, and another because they do not like what they feel is confrontation. Some people are too passive because they choose to be the peacemaker. Regardless of the reason, if you are too passive in your relationship you are not going to wind up happy with the relationship you are creating. Many people do not realize they are being too passive in their relationships so we created a list of signs to help you recognize if you are too passive with your romantic partner?

Signs of Being Too Passive

1. You no longer do the things that were important or fun for you. If you have given up, for instance, going to the gym because your partner discourages you going or you chose to in order to do what they want to do you have made a mistake. Your life should be complimented by your partner, not devoured. What kept you healthy and/or happy should still be a part of your life. Giving up negative habits or behaviors is one thing, giving up positive things is another.

Are You Too Passive in Your Relationship?

Are You Too Passive in Your Relationship?

2. You don’t make decisions in the relationship, you leave them all up to the one you love. You should have an equal say and equal role in your relationship because what you say and how you feel should be respected and important. If you always let your partner pick where you go out to eat when you have a place in mind or somewhere you would rather go you are being too passive. You are also creating an imbalance in your relationship where the world revolves around only one of you. This is not acting as a couple, but as only one person.

3. If the pace your relationship is moving either too slow or too fast for your comfort zone, you are being too passive. It should not be up to one person how fast or how slow the relationship moves. You need to voice your opinion and concerns and bring your relationships speed into your comfort zone.

4. You have lost a lot of your people. If you have ditched a lot of your friends and/or family members you are being too passive. Your friends and family had a good place in your life before your partner came along and should still have a significant role in your life.

5. If you have built up resentment you aren’t doing the relationship any favors. Stop being passive and instead begin to express your feelings of displeasure. Instead of brewing on the inside, let it out and hopefully that can then create some change and a more healthy balance within your relationship.

If you are too passive in your relationships, and you know it, please share with us some of your experiences in the comments section below.

We also invite you to read Whose Fault is It? His or Yours? 

 

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Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

8 Comments

  1. Shirley B.

    July 30, 2018 at 5:29 am

    I agree that you should have an equal say on the relationship for it to work out.

  2. Jese B.

    July 18, 2018 at 10:56 am

    Thank you for sharing this article. I haven’t realized that I was too passive in our relationship until I have read these signs.

  3. Ryan

    June 28, 2018 at 3:56 am

    What A beautiful advice. It very helpful in every relationships. It is true that we should not be passive in our relationship and in fact we have the right to express our emotions, thoughts, and other things to be understand by our partner. We must be both active so that we would know the needs and wants of our partner and to be understood as well. Communication and eye contact should be gone in every relationship because these are some of the important things to be done in a relationship.

  4. Ryan Olivas

    June 27, 2018 at 4:23 am

    What A beautiful advice. It very helpful in every relationships. It is true that we should not be passive in our relationship and in fact we have the right to express our emotions, thoughts, and other things to be understand by our partner. We must be both active so that we would know the needs and wants of our partner and to be understood as well. Communication and eye contact should be gone in every relationship because these are some of the important things to be done in a relationship.

  5. M

    June 9, 2018 at 4:20 pm

    I stay passive because im tired of the abuse. I don’t know what difference it has made. He just finds other reasons or makes up reasons to be abusive. I wish there was an easy way out.

  6. Taylor

    June 9, 2018 at 4:19 pm

    This article describes me “to a t.” I never thought it would affect my relationship negatively to be passive I thought it would be better but now I’m realizing it has made it so now when our relationship is rocky it feels like I’m the cause. I hate talking about my feelings or emotions, I hate confrontation so I usually just keep stuff bottled up, overall it’s made our communication non existent. Which is a huge issue in our relationship and I’m starting to try to open up but it’s hard and I just wish I knew what to do to make it easier.

  7. M. Morris

    June 9, 2018 at 3:12 pm

    I stay passive because im tired of the abuse. I don’t know what difference it has made. He just finds other reasons or makes up reasons to be abusive. I wish there was an easy way out.

  8. Taylor welsh

    June 8, 2018 at 10:37 am

    This article describes me “to a t.” I never thought it would affect my relationship negatively to be passive I thought it would be better but now I’m realizing it has made it so now when our relationship is rocky it feels like I’m the cause. I hate talking about my feelings or emotions, I hate confrontation so I usually just keep stuff bottled up, overall it’s made our communication non existent. Which is a huge issue in our relationship and I’m starting to try to open up but it’s hard and I just wish I knew what to do to make it easier.

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