Bad Boy Attraction is Not Good For You

Why are women so attracted to a bad boy? You take one look at him and know HE IS TROUBLE. You wouldn’t even begin to entertain the idea that he can be faithful. Forget about being mushy, this guy is too busy being a bad boy. So what is the attraction? Why do we find bad boys so exciting? Why do we feel we need excitement like this in a relationship?


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Bad Boy Attraction is Not Good For You

You wouldn’t go skydiving with a defective parachute would you? Does the risk of the chute not opening and you plummeting to the earth only to break your bones into a thousand pieces excite you? No? So why does risking our emotional well-being by giving the bad boy a shot at plummeting us into depression and low self-esteem only to break our hearts into a thousand pieces excite so many of us?


We don’t want drama at our job everyday, nor do we want to worry about getting fired everyday. But in a relationship, sure, why not have drama on a daily basis? Why not worry about either getting dumped, wondering what he is up to, or if he even really cares about? How is that fun? Why are so many women making the wrong choice with bad boys?


I remember being a little girl and seeing Star Wars. When we finished the movie I said to my mother that I wanted to marry Luke Skywalker (good guy) but I wanted Han Solo (bad boy) to be my boyfriend. Now I was little and didn’t mean it the way it sounded, I was just trying to express to my Mom that I liked them both. At such a young age the bad boy Han Solo appealed to me. (However, I think a young Harrison Ford playing ANY role would have appealed to me) The thing is I wasn’t at that age considering his looks, it was the persona of the bad boy character.


Do we all want to be that one woman that can tame the wild child? Do we think that a good guy can fall for anyone, so that doesn’t make us as special as having the bad boy fall for us does? A good guy is good to everyone, so we may not feel like we are singled out. The idea of a bad boy showing us his good side is more rare, so that alone can make us feel as if we are on a pedestal by ourselves.


Now let’s say the bad boy DOES show his good side, and then he loses that “mystique”, does he then become less attractive to us? The quest is over, the pursuit is finished, so what do we have left? A nice guy? Well why did we even bother taking that risk, going through all that nonsense when we just could have chosen a good guy to BEGIN with?


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Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio. 


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