Do you need help after experiencing a break up? You are single again and at the moment, you are not liking it. No one does. There are different scenarios that can cause a break up, and each one must be dealt with in a different way.
We will list a few scenarios, and then how to deal with each one.
1. The first scenario is when you broke up with him (or her) but it was in the heat of the moment and you were not serious about it, yet he (or she) is taking the breakup seriously. What you need to do in this case is apologize as quickly as possible. Understand that you may have to kiss a little butt for a while, but learn from this mistake and never break up with someone casually, because they make take it seriously, and they may not want to get back together with you at all.
2. He or she broke up with you and you want to get back together. Well, the only thing you really can do is let them know how you feel, and then give them some space. Nothing else will really help. Telling them your feelings, begging, groveling or stalking them will not make them change their mind. What that can do is make them feel they made the right decision breaking up with you in the first place. Calling them constantly or fighting with them is destructive and not helpful either. You want someone to take you back and you think fighting with them will do the trick? Wrong. If you want them to miss you, then leave them alone. They cannot miss you if you are constantly making your presence known. Have your friends help you keep busy and tell them to not let you talk about your ex, and try your best not to.
3. You gave them an ultimatum ………they failed…..you broke up with them. But now you are re-thinking things. Instead of focusing on where they fell short, you daydream about the times he or she was perfect, and things were going great. “If it wasn’t for this one thing, it would be perfect”, you say to yourself. Well, if you were looking for a new car, and it was perfect, except that it had no engine, would you buy it? No, the flaw is so serious, that although everything else is good, it is won’t work for you. And neither will this relationship. Stay strong with your decision, and when you find yourself reminiscing about the good times, stop at once. Go over the flaws instead.
4. They broke up with you because they found someone else. This is the hardest for most people. You are sad,hurt, and angry. You know your ex is having a great time with his new love and you don’t think that is fair. (It isn’t) You want them back, or you want to kick their butt. You go back and forth between crying and wanting to curse him out. Don’t let your ex’s decision make you feel like a victim. Don’t let it bruise your ego either. They were the one that did something wrong, not you. Chances are they will do the same thing to their latest fling. But enough about the happy couple. They will only make you feel like a pathetic loser. Put them out of your thoughts and do what you can to feel better about yourself. Plan and start saving for a trip you always wanted to go on, spend time with people you like and may not have had much time for in the past, get your hair done, whatever. Just make it about you, not them.
Break ups are hard, and we all need a little help getting through them. Some relationships can be repaired, and often how we handle the breakup increases or decreases those chances.
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