Labels are misleading. They can often say they are one thing, but actually mean another. We all check the labels on the things we buy, with the expectation that what is on the label stands for something. The label could detail the content of the item, and quite often the quality of the item. Ifyou buy an item from Chanel for example, you expect the item to be of high quality and design in exchange for that higher price.
The problem with labels in relationships is that labels lie. The man in your life can “label” you as his girlfriend, but if he sees other women, barely contacts you, hides his comings and goings with you, and basically is still acting single, sure you have the label, but does it mean anything?
If you buy a shirt and it says it is 100% cotton you expect (and rightfully so) that it is 100% cotton. So why shouldn’t the labels in our relationships have certain expectations as well?
Have you ever purchased a high end item with a fancy-shmancy label and discovered the quality was sub-par? Didn’t you then feel that the label did not mean squat? It didn’t! The label doesn’t always guarantee quality or substance. Why then do women often think, when in a situation with a manthat is unsatisfactory, that once they are “labeled” suddenly things will be wonderful? You can put a Chanel label on a Walmart item and it doesn’t change the item in the least. It is STILL a Walmart item. You can call an apple and orange, it’s still an apple.
So if your man treats you like a shit before you get the label, chances are that the label won’t change a thing. “But when are we going to be boyfriend/girlfriend?” so many women ask. When he TREATS you like one is the real answer. Wouldn’t you rather be treated like a girlfriend than being called one…but treats you like some bimbo? Do you want just the label?
If I give you a label from a Chanel suit does that mean you have a Chanel suit? No, you just have a LABEL. What you want is the label, and everything that the label states or implies. So ladies if he has not yet called you “his girlfriend” yet he is seeing only you, spends most of his free time with you, is consistent with communication with you, and you can count on seeing him in the future, is the label really that big a deal? Don’t you think if he is acting like a boyfriend that he wont have a problem putting on the label of boyfriend?
Its the same in reverse, if the guy you are seeing is elusive, you don’t know if he is seeing anyone else (or do know he is or suspect
it) and contacts you erratically, and you never know when or if you are getting together, what would the label of being his girlfriend give you? That is like putting a “100% silk” label on cheap polyester.
A label on our clothing for instance is hidden because who really needs to know the material and size other than us? The only labels showing are the ones we want to show, to show the we have a high-end item or am item considered cool or trendy. Is that what you need your relationship label for? Is it for yourself or for others? Is it for your own comfort or for show?
We can often see passers-by wearing or carrying items that make us envious when we see the label. What if the label is fake? Can you spot it? In most cases you can’t from a distance, and you were jealous of the person that has this item. Many women whine about how “all their friend have boyfriends/husbands and are in a relationship except them” and they are jealous. How do you know what their label really stands for?
Your friend Shiela has a boyfriend that cheats on her left and right. Connie has a live in boyfriend that doesn’t pay his share of the
rent and has an addiction problem that makes her life miserable, Cindy’s husband is having an affair with a woman he met online and Beth’s husband is a control freak that is a fascist dictator in their own home. Yes, each one of them has a label, but is their situation anything to be jealous of?
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