There is nothing wrong with demanding that people treat you with respect, dignity and love. Demanding behavior becomes a problem when your man’s demands, and unloving behavior, are disrespectful to you. When the demands are all one-sided, and your thoughts and your feelings are not taken into consideration, it borders on abuse. When someone demands to get their own way all the time and punishes you if they don’t, it has gotten way out of hand.
Someone who is demanding does not care what their demands cost you. They care little, or not at all, about your feelings and opinions. They and are insensitive to your feelings but insist you be sensitive to theirs. It is all about them, and never about you. Demanding men will pressure you, never let up and try to wear you down. You eventually give in because you either do not want to hear about it anymore, or you do it to keep the peace. The problem is demanding men never reach a quota with their demands, they come up with new ones constantly. They will manipulate you and punish you if their slightest demands, and unreasonable ones at that, are not met.
If you are involved with a demanding man it may come to the point where you are not allowed to have any control over your own life or decisions. They will demand your follow their advice on clothing, who your friends should be and expect you to cater to their every whim. Demanding men feel that they have the right to do whatever it takes to get you to do or say what they want. It is always about what they need, about what they want, and never about you or anyone else.
Often a man’s demands can seem completely ridiculous to you, and the rest of the world, but to them it is top priority. I know a woman who had to watch football every time the man in her life did. He loved football. She hated it. He didn’t talk to her when the game was on, did not discuss the game with her, or sit next to or cuddle with her. She suggested that when the game was on she would go food shopping, or clean the house, or do laundry. Forget that. He DEMANDED she watched the game with him, and if she really loved him, she would be happy to. Welcome to Control Freak City, Population 1.
Can anyone really be happy with someone who is too demanding? The answer is no. If it is all about them. Unless they are in a relationship with their clone they will never be truly happy, because they are not you. We are all adults. Adults want to make their own decisions and not be overruled by a fascist dictator. I can see if someone does not want you to smoke anymore for health reasons, but for someone to say that you cannot have a glass of wine with dinner anymore because they don’t drink alcohol and don’t think you should either, is ridiculous. A guy like that will tell you not to drink alcohol in his presence but will buy and eat tons of candy, cake and cookies when you are on a diet. Just like you need to accept them for who they are, they need to accept you for who you are.
If your man demands that you spend more time with him at the expense of everyone and everything else in your life, he is too demanding. If your man demands that you think the way he does, agree with all his opinions and theories, then he is too demanding. If he demands that you choose between him and other important people in your life then he is too demanding. If he is in control of what you eat and where you eat it, what you do and when you do it, what you like and what you shouldn’t like, he is too demanding. If he pressures you sexually and won’t let up and it makes you uncomfortable and feeling as though he is disregarding your feelings entirely, he is being too demanding.
It is time to end your dysfunctional relationship with a man who is too demanding. You will never meet all of his demands, as he will invent more daily, and you will lose yourself entirely.
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