Emotional Logic: Dating and Relationships

Emotional logic is an oxymoron. People tend to justify relationships they are in, trying to get in, or staying with for way too long by what we call “emotional logic”. This is when people justify their decisions in relationships with “logic” that makes zero sense. Rather than deal with their relationships the way real logic would dictate, they fabricate illogical reasons to stay stuck in unhealthy situations. Some of these fabrications may actually have some logic to them, but within the context of the entire relationship it falls very short.

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Emotional Logic: Dating and Relationships

It can start small, and then grow into a parallel-like universe where they cannot separate reality from fantasy anymore. It can start off simple, like when a guy does not call for days or weeks, and the woman he is dating or in a relationship with accepts the fact that he is just so busy and leaves it at that. Shouldn’t she realize that it takes 10 seconds to send a text message saying “I am busy right now, but will call when I am free”? Everyone has 10 seconds during a 24 hour at some point in their day. Shouldn’t it occur to her that if he is too busy to even call when he says he will, how the hell can he have time for a relationship? Shouldn’t she be thinking this may not be the right guy for her? Shouldn’t she be looking for a guy that is consistent in a good way?

Emotional logic gave her the way to excuse the blaring red flag in a way that suits her. This same emotional logic will be a great help when he starts cancelling dates with her, standing her up, being too busy to take her out, and so on. She may even sympathize with the poor guy for being so busy. And the saddest part is, in most cases the other women she talks to about it WILL HELP HER JUSTIFY IT.

Women support each other when it comes to emotional logic more often than not. The one who says “Are you kidding me? What kind of bogus excuse is that?” quite often is labelled a bitch, jealous or a negative person. Now of course you shouldn’t associate with only “gloom and doom” people, but you should be able tell the difference between when someone is telling you the truth or when someone is purposely trying to make you feel bad or has another agenda.

Emotional logic helps people stay in dysfunctional relationships. It helps excuse inexcusable behavior. It justifies going back to an ex that you shouldn’t go back to, and allows you to stay in a relationship that should have ended long ago. Emotional logic gives you the reasons to enter and stay in an affair. Emotional logic is what makes women hate the women her man is cheating on her with, but still “love” the cheating man. Emotional logic is the reason many women can hang in there with emotionally unavailable men they should be running away from. Emotional logic is responsible for a lot of friends with benefits relationships and booty calls.


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Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio. 


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