The quote “The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.” is from Maya Angelou and is quite brilliant. Why, when someone shows us who they are do we not want to see it? Why, when a man shows us he is a player do we make excuses or think he will change down the road? Why do we think he willchange? Why do we not simply accept that he is a player? Why do we not want to accept the truth about people? When a man shows you that he is a liar and cannot be trusted the first time, should we give them a second, third or fourth chance to lie to us again?
Many people say we all deserve a second chance, as we would all like be given one. However, a third, fourth, fifth, etc. chance? No way. Do not make someone have to show you over and over and over again who they really are, believe them the first time they show you. Why does it take us so long to be believe the truth and get closure?
If you are with a man who is not single, and is either married or has a girlfriend and he tells you “I will never leave my wife or girlfriend” BELIEVE HIM. Then go out and find a guy who is available.
When a man cheats on you and will not honor his commitment to you, he is showing you he is someone who is unfaithful and will not commit. BELIEVE HIM.
When a man does not show affection towards you, he is showing you that he is not an affectionate person. BELIEVE HIM.
Don’t get caught up in what he was like when you first met him, in that stage he has not shown you who he really is. When the honeymoon phase is over, quite often that will be when his true self comes to light. Don’t use the honeymoon phase to negate what you are seeing now. Don’t tell yourself who he really is is who he was in the beginning. What he is showing you at the present time about himself is all that really matters now.
When he lies to you the first time, believe not in him, but believe that he is a liar. Don’t continue to trust him, or put your trust and faith in him. When he shows you your feelings are not important, believe that that is how he feels. Don’t excuse him. Don’t tell yourself he is going through a phase, or that it will get better down the road. It won’t, so believe that your feelings are not important to him. Don’t make someone have to prove to you who they are repeatedly. The first time someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM.
Thank you Maya Angelou!!
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