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Friends After a Break Up? Not a Good Idea!

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Friends After a Break Up? Not a Good Idea!

Friends After a Break Up? Not a Good Idea!

Should you be friend after a break up and remain in contact with your ex? If either of you is hoping for a reconciliation, and believe maintaining a friendship is a good way to keep the door open, then the answer is NO! If you are still having sex with one another (stop that) then the answer is NO! Have neither of you moved on? If not, then it may be impossible to be friends. Are there still unresolved feelings? Do either of you think being friends will help you to get closure? Being friends will not give you closure. After you have closure, then see if you would like to be friends with your ex. But not until then.

If seeing your ex start a new relationship with someone would cause you pain and ruin your friendship with him, then obviously friendship is not a good idea. If your ex would be hurt be hurt if you began seeing someone else, the same rule applies. If friendship was never a real part of your relationship prior to now, chances are very slim you could really be friends at this point. You both need to have an honest discussion to determine if you could realistically be friends. You need to examine both your feelings and the reasons why you would consider friendship. You will have to create different boundaries than you are used to. Many times ex’s use being friends after a break up so they can be friends with benefits, which is another bad idea.

If you believe that when either of you move on to new relationships your friendship would either a) be a problem with his/your new partner or b) that you really wouldn’t have a need for the friendship anymore then don’t bother. If it is going to end anyway, don’t even let it begin. Be honest with yourself, and unless you see how being friends after a break up is a good, healthy thing for you, then it is not a good idea.




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Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

1 Comment

  1. Brenda R

    February 24, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    I tried very hard to be friends with my ex after our breakup and it did not work out. I know deep down I was hoping a friendship would keep me in his life and that maybe he would want me back. He didn’t, and it took longer for me to get closure, especially when he was dating someone else.

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