Is it love or infatuation? Real love and infatuation are two completely different things. The problem is that many people confuse the two. What is the difference between love and infatuation?
Infatuation centers around emotion. When you love someone, it is much more than just emotion. Your behaviors and commitment come along with it. As we all know, our emotions change from hour to hour, day-to-day, and are not consistent and cannot be counted on to stay the same. When you really love someone, you love them warts and all. You see them for who they are and love them anyway.
When you are infatuated with someone, you fail to see their faults because to you they have none. They are perfect in your eyes and can do no wrong. Infatuation is spur of the moment, can happen in an instant, and can be towards someone you just met, just saw in a magazine or on tv but have never met in person, nor may you ever. We can all be infatuated with someone like Angelina Jolie or Hugh Jackman, but we don’t love them. We don’t really know them, and if we think we do we are kidding ourselves.
We become infatuated with who we think they are, and create elaborate daydreams about what it would be like if we were in a relationship with them. (Of course we never imagine anything bad about them, because they are perfect, and life with them would be perfect, right?) When you love someone, you develop the knowledge of who that person really is, and although they are not perfect, you feel they are perfect for you.
When you love someone you trust them, when you are infatuated with them, you do not. You are afraid they will leave you for someone else, or that you are not good enough for them. Love lasts over time, and sometimes lifetimes. Infatuation burns out, sometimes as quickly as it started. Remember that relationship you were in where the person came on so strong and then suddenly cooled off? They did not love you, they were infatuated with you, and that infatuation came to and end. (Along with your relationship)
Someone that really loves you will not leave you if you are sick, or change in some way physically or financially. Someone who is only infatuated will. Someone who loves you makes the choice to commit to you in every way possible, and stand with you through thick and thin. Someone infatuated with you will leave because it isn’t “fun” for them anymore. The differences between love and infatuation are many, and you need to be able to tell the difference. You need to know if your partner is infatuated with you, or in love with you. And the same can be said regarding how you feel about them.