Since the New Year has passed and everyone’s fitness resolutions are hopefully in place, we decided to write a few resolutions for your relationship. We hope this makes for a better, happier year and happier YOU.
1. Leave the games to the professional sports players and keep them out of your relationship. Don’t play them, and stop being played by game players.
2. Let go of a relationship that did not work out. Stop comparing your current (or future) relationship to an old one. Stop letting your fixation on an old relationship prevent you from getting into a new one. Let the past stay in the past where it belongs.
3. Allow your partner, and yourself, the freedom to be yourselves. You do not have to like the all of the same things. Everyone has a habit that can be annoying. That should be ok with us, and our partner, because perfection is an unobtainable goal that keeps us from appreciating the good person we were lucky enough to find.
4. Stop using the same tactics to fix the same problems. If those tactics didn’t work the first hundred times you tried them, come up with a new plan. If you do not, change will not occur. Change your tactics, get different results. This can resolve issues in your relationship that you have not been able to previously. Why have the same arguments over and over again?
5. Give yourself permission to say “No”. Stop trying to please everyone at your own expense. It only builds resentment, so when you really want to say no, just say NO. (And don’t feel guilty about it either).
6. Give your relationship an expiration date. Milk has one, and so do many other groceries. If not used by a certain date, they go bad. If your relationship has just stayed in limo and has not gotten anywhere, give it an expiration date. If it does not move to the next level by that date, toss it out. Make this year the year that you stop wasting time on relationships that are going nowhere.
7. Stop being the other woman. Be the only woman.
8. Stop waiting around for the guy who may never come back, never ask you out, and never commit. You have waited long enough, and now it is time to live your life. If they come back, ask you out, or want to commit while you are living your life, fine. If not, you won’t notice or care anyway.
9. Stop doing things that embarrass you or are beneath you. If you have to stalk his Facebook page (really? seriously? really?), hack into his email, and check his cell phone you need to stop, and you need to stop now. You should not have to do these things in a relationship, and if you do, there is a serious problem. Work on the problem, and if it can’t be fixed, it is time to let it go.
10. Set boundaries and be ready to enforce them. Stop just talking the talk, start walking the walk. Stop using your mouth and instead put your foot down.
~ Happy New Year Everyone ~
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