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He Owes You an Apology and Needs to be Sorry

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We all want an apology. We want to know the person that hurt us is sorry, and won’t ever do it again. We want them to know how much we hurt and that they never want to make us feel that pain again. Words won’t always do the trick, quite often we need to see remorse through the person’s actions and behavior. Forgiveness is not always immediate. Many times we need time to nurse our wounds to optimize healing.
What if you are in a relationship with someone who does not know how to apologize worth a shit, and pretty much acts like you should get over it, rather than put forth the energy to convince you they feel bad about what they have done? Do you use the “He doesn’t know how to express himself well, but I know he feels bad” excuse? You shouldn’t.


If you did something to hurt or upset him, could you get away with using that excuse? Probably not. So why can he? If you can go through all the pain your boyfriend or husband caused you and put it the effort to forgive him, why would you bother if he isn’t even sorry?
Think about it. You won’t touch a hot stove after you have been burned because you got hurt. Why would he stop doing or saying something to you if he didn’t get burned as well? I’m not talking about revenge, I’m talking about his feeling bad (and showing it and saying it) and feeling remorse (and showing it and saying it). Otherwise why wouldn’t you think he would hurt you again?

he owes you an apology and needs to be sorry

He Owes You an Apology


It has to cost him SOMETHING because it cost you a lot of tears and heartache. Should he have to pay somehow? Yes, so he learns not to do it again.


Now if he does the same things over and over and over again but you get the apologies, tears and good behavior it is just as bad. His words and actions are hollow, without any meaning. The truth of the matter is that if someone loves you they naturally feel bad about it, they naturally act remorseful, and they naturally want to make it up to you. It is not an act!!!


If they do it again and again after seeing how much it hurts you, watch you cry, and see your pain, you must accept that this person doesn’t care about your feelings. You owe it to yourself to care about you because he doesn’t.


Everyone screws up sometimes, and will do or say something stupid and hurt the person they are involved with. How each person handles it is different. Every relationship will have problems, so a big important part of a relationship is how those problems are handled. If he handles them like shit then you must accept that this behavior will continue throughout the relationship.


Maybe it is time to apologize to yourself for being with him in the first place and sorry for the fact that you let him do this to you again and again. If you really mean your apology to yourself, then you will dump this rectal swab and find someone better.

 

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Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio.

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