Through speaking with clients we have observed lately that many people are unsure when to leave a relationship. At what point should you throw in the towel and give up trying to hold a relationship together? At what stage should you come to the realization that you have done all you can? We compiled a list to help those confused that are unsure if they should leave their current relationship.
10 Reasons to Leave Your Relationship
1. Too much dysfunction and drama is a very good reason to leave your relationship. Drama and dysfunction day after day change you as a person. You behave in ways you are ashamed of. You may have tried to stop the dysfunction and drama but have had no luck. If the person you are with is a drama queen or king it is time to leave. If the person you are with could teach a class on how to create and maintain a dysfunctional relationship, it is time to leave. Take your sanity and go.
2. If your relationship has not evolved and stays stuck in a rut, it may be time to leave that relationship. If you want to be married at some point and your partner is dead set against marriage, then it may be time to go. If you have been in a relationship for years and have not gotten a commitment of any kind, why are you still there? If a commitment is not important to you then stay. But if it is, you gave it enough time to deserve one.
3. Cheating, especially repeated cheating is a top reason to leave your relationship. How many times can you go through this? Can you ever trust them again? Will you ever trust them again. Be realistic with yourself. Don’t make it about the other woman. Don’t make it about not losing him to her. Can you go through him cheating on you again? If the answer is no, then leave your relationship.
4. If he or she is emotionally unavailable or distant most of the time, you may consider leaving your relationship. If your emotional needs are not being met, it is only a matter of time before you can’t take it anymore. If love and affection have left your relationship (or were never there in the first place) then you should leave as well.
5. If the one you love has family members or friends that make your life miserable, it may be time to leave your relationship. Now your partner is not responsible for what his friends and family do. But they are responsible for creating boundaries. They should be taking your side if you are the victim of his friends or families shenanigans. Your partner needs to stand up for you, and stand up to them.
6. Sexual incompatibility. If the sex is bad, non-existent, or you just are not attracted to them sexually anymore, it may be time to bail. If sex isn’t important to either of you, then that is another story. If sex is important, then it might be time to call it quits.
7. If you are being subjected to any kind of abuse in your relationship, please leave now. For your own well-being and safety, get out. No one should suffer from mental,physical, or verbal abuse. Please seek help. Don’t think it will get better, because it won’t.
8. Childish behavior makes adults go crazy. If the person you are with behaves like a three-year old when they are mad, sad, or don’t get their way, leave. You are an adult and need to be in a relationship with an adult. You cannot have an adult relationship with someone who behaves like a toddler. Check our article Adult Relationships Cannot Withstand Childish Behavior.
9. If your dreams and goals for the future are polar opposites, then the future doesn’t look to bright for you as a couple. If you want marriage and kids and he or she does not, one of you loses out. Are you willing to make that sacrifice? If you are not, then leave. If you will wind up bitter, and angry and resentful for putting your dreams and goals aside, then you may as well leave the relationship now.
10. When you are being treated like shit, it’s time to leave your relationship and the person treating you like shit. If you are being disrespected all the time, leave. If the one you love is a jealous nut job and drives you crazy with their jealousy, leave. If your partner doesn’t do his or her fair share, leave. If they won’t get a job, help support you emotionally, and just keep pulling you down, LEAVE. If they act out, act unreasonable, or withdraw emotionally or physically from the relationship, leave. You do not deserve that kind of treatment from them or anyone else.