Relationships are all different, yet the reasons people leave relationships are quite similar. In many cases, a person does not see the end coming, and feels like a fool because they didn’t. Sadly, it is almost always one partner knows well in advance that the relationship is ending, while the other is taken by surprise. They then beat themselves up for not seeing the signs, and want to know why this happened to them.
Many times when they ask their significant other why they ended the relationship the answer they get doesn’t make sense to them. Here is a list of the top reasons people leave relationships to shed some light on and hopefully allow you to be better prepared.
Top Reasons People Leave Relationships
- One of the top reasons people leave their relationship is because there was just too much arguing. The fighting seemed to never end, and the constant and continual battles wore them down. They just couldn’t do it anymore. They were not happy with the fighting in the first place, and since there never seemed to be a reprieve from it, they couldn’t face a future like this so they decided it was time to throw in the towel.
- Another reason people leave relationships is because they lose themselves in the relationship. They felt smothered, and never could do anything by themselves. There was too much focus on being together all the time that they lost themselves as an individual. They decided at some point that the only way to find themselves again was that they had to leave the relationship to do so. This can happen a lot with couples that have too much “togetherness” and not enough time for themselves.
- The third reason people leave relationships is because they should never have stayed in the relationship to begin with. The relationship was rocky from the start, they were trying to hard yet it wasn’t working, and they are not organically a good couple. They were trying to fake it until they made it, and that just doesn’t work for relationships. They may have been staying together for the kids, or for financial reasons, but the relationship itself was never why they hung in there.
- A lack of excitement, or too much routine is another reason people call it quits. The relationship has gone stale, and no one is really putting forth any effort. There has been no quality time, no romance, and no energy put into the relationship so it went on auto pilot until it ran itself out. Without energy or effort being put into it, a relationship will eventually die. What they have is no longer good enough, and they feel they want and deserve more.
- If a person does not want to commit or take the next step in a relationship, they will often leave. Rather than face their fears of commitment or moving forward, they run as far away as they can. Some people really don’t want to be committed to one person and do not wish to be in serious relationships. They are not running from fear but leaving a relationship that they no longer want.
- Many people leave a relationship to start one with another person. They have either developed an interest in someone new and wish to be free to pursue them, or they have been carrying on an affair for some time. This is one of the most common reasons people leave a relationship. They may try to work it out more than once but it does not always work, and the lack of trust is hard to repair.
- It is the final straw. They told their partner if they ever did something in particular again, it would be the last straw and they would leave. Their partner didn’t believe them, did it again, and so they left. They warned them, but they didn’t listen, and now it is too late. They were forgiven too many times, they didn’t change, and now it is over.
- Major life events became too much. Major illness, loss of job, financial crisis, drug abuse, alcoholism, or any other major crisis took a toll on the relationship. Major chaos can either make a relationship stronger or weaken it, and sometimes outside events can take their toll on a relationship.
If you are experiencing any of these within your relationship, there is a good chance your partner is getting ready to end it.