Do you feel you are the only one working on the relationship while your romantic partner does nothing? No relationship, unless it is on tv, the movies, or in fantasyland doesn’t need work at some point or another. Women have a tendency to put 100% of themselves into “working on their relationship”. What women need to understand is that the 100% they put in isn’t worth squat unless their partner is doing their share as well.
A relationship is 50/50. If you are doing 100%, your share is still only 50%! The other 50% belongs to your partner! You can’t do it alone. You can work and work and work but you cannot do your partners share. It is impossible. Two people need to be happy in a relationship, not one. If one of you is not getting their emotional, mental or physical needs met, your relationship is not in good shape. You can do your best to make the man you love happy, but if he isn’t making YOU happy, then he is sleeping on the job. You can’t do his work for him.
Many women won’t let their man do chores like laundry or dishes because the man they love won’t do it right or to their liking. Instead of teaching him how to do these simple tasks the right way, a woman will often say to themselves “Screw it, I’ll just do it myself”. Women do the same thing in relationships too. Rather than teach their man the right way to behave, act, whatever, the woman either says nothing, compromises, or does the work herself. It’s time to wake up ladies. You men have jobs (at least they should), know how to read and write (at least they should), can drive a car, and went through high school and possibly some college. But you can’t teach them to do the laundry correctly? They can’t handle dishes? They can’t apologize when they do something wrong? Yes, they can. They are either to lazy, have no desire, or you are too lazy to teach them or have no desire to. Why?
Women need to learn to delegate responsibility. Think of what your relationship needs. What does he need? What do you need? It is your job to do your share, and if you are doing it, wonderful. If your man is not doing his share, then write his ass up. Put him on 30 days notice. Then fire him if he doesn’t get his shit together. Stop thinking you can do it all. You can’t.
If you want to have a relationship with another person that person has to want a relationship with you too. It can’t be a one-sided thing with one person putting in all the energy. Look at all the work you do. Are you getting PAID for it? Not in cash, but in ways like “thank yous”, being shown appreciation, being paid back with kindness? If not, why are you working for FREE? You wouldn’t work and bust your ass at your place of employment, stay late, work overtime, etc if you weren’t getting paid, would you? Why should you work so hard at a relationship if there are no rewards? Of course we shouldn’t only do nice things and expect something in return but we should alwaysexpect to be appreciated and respected for what we do! Same thing with the man in your life.
You should appreciate all that he does, and let him know it is appreciated. If you went to medical school, busted your behind studying, paid all that money for tuition and did all the work to become a doctor, would you expect to be paid $3.00 and hour? No, you would want to be paid what you are WORTH. The same goes for relationships. Are you getting treated the way you deserve or are you selling yourself too short? You determine what you are worth, not someone else. If they are not ready, willing and able to put their share of work into your relationship, it is time to call it quits. You need a partner, not a slacker. Give them their pink slip and start interviewing.
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