Worried About Being a Bitch or Being Mean? Don’t Be

If one more woman tells me she is worried about being a bitch, or being mean, I am going to scream. First of all, most of the women worrying about being bitches or being mean couldn’t be either one on their worst day. Real bitches don’t worry, and mean women couldn’t care less what anyone thinks.

I have also noticed it is only when I talk to women about empowering themselves, and standing up for themselves, that fears surface about being labelled a bitch. Since when is it mean to stand up for yourself when someone is being mean to you? It isn’t.

Not tolerating someones bullshit or mistreatment of you does not make you a bitch either. It makes you a strong, empowered woman with healthy self-esteem, who demands and gets respect.

Worried About Being a Bitch or Being Mean? Don't Be

Worried About Being a Bitch or Being Mean? Don’t Be

Why do women equate being nice with being weak? Be nice to those that are nice to you. Kick the people to the curb that treat you like shit. Fair enough, right?
Ask yourself how come the man in your life isn’t worrying about you (and everyone that loves you) thinking he is a mean prick? Because he is one? Probably. If you deserve much better than he is giving you, and don’t deserve most of what he is giving you, then it’s time to kick some serious ass.

What is it you are really afraid of? That someone may call you a bad name? Big whoo. Remember that whole “sticks and stones” thing? So what. What you really may be afraid of is that if you no longer allow him to treat you like a second class citizen, he will leave. Why, exactly, would you want him if that is the price you have to pay to keep his worthless ass?

Let’s define what a real bitch is. She is someone who is nasty to nice people who don’t deserve it. A mean woman treats people like dog crap for fun. So, unless that is who you really are, no need to fear a word anymore. I mean if I called you a kangaroo would you believe you really are one? Would you be afraid that now everyone you know would think you are a kangaroo? I should hope to hell not.

So let’s stop worrying about being called a bitch or being called mean. Instead focus on the bastard that is mistreating you and is mean to you and think about how to get the hell away from him.


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Sarah Adelle

Sarah is a Certified Relationship Life Coach and Soulmate ~ Twin Flame expert with 20+ years experience helping clients around the world live the life and have the relationship they desire. Sarah is here to empower you to see the truth in your situation, not enable you to remain in a place that keeps you stuck and unhappy. Sarah will lift you to see the reality of your situation, providing guidance to see you through it. She will also help you get control of your relationship, if it can be saved, so you have can the relationship you have hoped for. Sarah co-hosts two weekly radio shows, primarily geared toward relationship issues, called Empower Enlighten Envision on Weds nights on BlogTalkRadio as well as CBS NewSkyRadio. 


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